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ch 6 : inwardness: self protective patterns that restrict emotional
transactions between partners
page 135
The inward (defended) state & it's opposite, a feelingful state,
represent end points on a continuum.
"Normal" individuals are continually contending with the voice.......
not completely possessed by critical voices &....not completely removed from
feeling.
However, their spirit & sensitivity are dulled considerably,.
Their diminished feelings for self & others makes it possible for them to
unconsciously act out destructive behaviors toward themselves & their loved
ones.
....The suppression of feelings begins in childhood.
Unable to escape a punishing or toxic home situation, children gradually
disengage from themselves as scared hurting people & become...someone other
than themselves.
In doing so they cut off feelings of compassion toward themselves &
sensitivity towards others.
In ceasing to identify with themselves, they build a kind of facade, a
social image.
Thereafter, role determined emotions, conventional perceptions &
secretiveness increasingly replace real feelings, rational thinking & open
expressions of emotion.
People who are inward & suppress their feeling responses also tend to view
themselves & their partners more as objects than as persons.
In relating to themselves in this manner, they give little or no value to
their experiences & are often indifferent to their physical health &
emotional wellbeing.
Remedial Procedures:
Use of Voice Therapy, Feeling Release Therapy & the Dissolution of the
Fantasy Bond.
Identifying negative thoughts & behavior patterns, counteracting them & the
evolution of the individual towards authentic intimacy.
Top 3 major stresses in everyone's life: Death of child/parent, divorce,
separation.
This affects almost everyone reading this page
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If you have
these stresses going on, you can learn how to destress yourself or get
appropriate professional help.
If physical work & exercise alone does not work, go to your physician if
only to
rule out any underlying known medical cause.
Please check the credentials of the person who is claiming to be helping you
that they are not out of their scope of practice.
Dual Relationship caution:
YOUR friends/family members cannot effectively be YOUR therapist/physician/counselor
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What is a
boundary? A boundary is an invisible
“barrier” between you and other people – limits beyond which you will not go and
beyond which others are not welcome. Here I have a problem with
that__________________________________________________ I’ve decided not
to________________________________________________________ This is what I
need________________________________________________________ This is hard for me to
say___________________________________________________ I understand your point of view
but___________________________________________ I feel uncomfortable
about__________________________________________________ I’d rather
not_____________________________________________________________ Yes, I do
mind____________________________________________________________ I’d prefer not
to___________________________________________________________ It’s important to
me________________________________________________________ That’s
unacceptable_______________________________________________________ I guess we see it
differently_________________________________________________ Who do I
need to establish clear boundaries with? (make list)___________________________________________________
Setting Boundaries
It is healthy to have a good sense of where your feelings and opinions start and
stop and where the other person’s feelings and opinions start and stop.
It is especially important to know how to set boundaries with “difficult” people
– particularly with those individuals who are critical, controlling,
manipulative, demanding or aggressive.
How do I communicate my boundaries to other people?
are
some
words
to
use:
I don’t want to___________________________________________________________
I’ll think about
it__________________________________________________________